Having watched three episodes of 'flight of the conchords' I decided that I would like to give My wife the chance to enjoy it with me. When I watch a funny programme of hear music I like I run it through my head to think if my wife would also enjoy it. It's much better to enjoy something together and so I would take the chance.
I say take the chance because if she doesn't like what I present then I take it very personally. To a normal person this is called a difference of opinion, but not to me. If she turns her nose up at something I like it's as if she's saying "you loser this is crap and therefore you are crap and so are all your other opinions.
Here's an example, I watched 'Drag me to he'll at the cinema and I loved it. A silly comedy horror gross out bit of fun just as evil dead 2 was. It was promoted as a carnival ghost train movie. So when my bluray arrived I pushed for my wife to watch it. It was a Friday night event with the lights off and twenty mins had passed and I was enjoying it once more and sharing it was better until she turned to me and said
"Is it this shit all the way through?"
Now that comment was a two hander, firstly that meant to me, I had subjected her to twenty mins of film watching that she could now not get back watching something that she considered 'shit'. Secondly, the thought of having to endure another seventy minutes at the same level of 'shit' had made her cry out for rescue.
I couldn't allow another minute to pass her eyes. I had soiled her retinas with 'shit' that I loved. As I turned it off she added "No you carry on watching it"
There was no way I could now enjoy it since she looked down on my stupidity and my easily entertained brain cell. This is the reaction to her disagreement , but I think it's because I value her opinion the most. It's like dancing in front of her, believe it or not I like to dance but the thought of her saying "you call that dancing" or even "is your dance going to be this 'shit' all the way through?" makes me crumble.
So I tentatively put this programme on and she laughed a lot and it felt great. Phew!!