I noticed my stepson had black smudges under his eyes the other day and asked if he'd been wearing makeup. He said No in an incredulous way. I said then how come it's on your face. Under such scrutiny he admitted that he had applied make up and he thought he'd got it all off. He done a few effeminate things recently and I asked if he was gay. He said No. 
I even said "it's ok if you are but if your not stop making it look like you are" I don't consider this to be homophobic or small minded of me. What I was thinking was more that I was steering him away from trouble from his peers. 
It turned out he was doing it to impress a girl at school and tonight under further questioning he said he'd learnt his lesson  and was not going to make the same mistake again because his school peers had given him no end of grief for having makeup on. The girl in question remained still unimpressed. 
In my day you just had to stand in a certain way to be called a 'Bender'. I joked with him about him wearing make up and getting stick for it and the fact that I'd said he shouldn't do it. I said "who's written on the back of your blazer" he looked surprised and said " I didnt know about it".
I said "yeah someones chalked 'Gaylord' on your blazer.. Oh hang on that was me".
This was funny to say to your mates in the 80's and it seemed to still be funny now. But again I said that it's fine if you are gay really. He said he isn't. But from what i hear the boys at school think it's cool to be bisexual, it's just another cool way of 'pulling the chicks'. 
If Being 'mincy' was cool when i was at school I probably would have faired better with the ladies. If it was also considered cool to be a wonky toothed, big eared, shit haircutted nob end I would have got off with loads, but alas those days never happened. 
My step daughter also left me dumbfounded a few days ago by saying that girls at her school now refer to 'a fit lad' as a 'BIRD', after all the grief lads got for saying that, the women of tomorrow will be saying it about lads.